Renaissance Women

Botticelli's Three Graces in Primavera

Botticelli’s Three Graces in Primavera

“You’re a Renaissance woman,” she said in amazement, “You really are.”  I graciously replied, “Thank you.”  I was able to accept that extraordinary compliment.  My ego definitely liked it a lot, but I had also learned years ago to accept compliments honestly given, not to deflect them…to own that maybe the speaker was right!

 She knows me as an actress, a singer, a writer, a producer and director of my own shows here in my adopted home of New York City.  She knows me as a mom with grown kids.  In my “day” job, I am a life coach, keynote speaker and also a consultant with a public speaking company. This day she was with me in a class, learning those skills.  So I could have stopped with the compliment, but instead turned the mirror back on her.

She too is a mom, a talented schoolteacher, a writer, a blogger who has channeled her divorce and her emergence from that into a positive spiritual experience for herself and her family.  She is growing into her new life in extraordinary ways.  When I brought that to her attention, she almost deflected her own compliment, but took a breath and took it in (I think).

Here’s the thing.  Women don’t take it in.  We’ve been taught to dim it down. “Quiet down, you’re too much.”  “Don’t get a big head.”  “Don’t be too smart…men don’t like women who are smarter than them.”  If you don’t believe it, just watch TV or movies, or read most magazines.  Or digest this oldie but goodie from my mom, “Don’t get too big for your britches.”  The saying may be bygone, the sentiment still lives.

So we’re careful to stay small, to not speak up, put our voices in the world or acknowledge how many “Renaissance Women” are among us.  It’s why, when I coach them, I turn the mirror back on them and we plumb the depths of who they are and what gifts they possess.  Another woman I coached yesterday is an energy healer who went back to school and got a Ph.D. in political science and wants to help women in the developing world, but instead of acknowledging all this, she defined herself as “scattered”.  That’s what she’s been told.  But it’s not the truth.  She just needs the encouragement to put it all together, because she can.

That’s what we women do.  We are multi-dimensional.  We explore many paths, but with encouragement, we can weave a tapestry that is extraordinary, not just for ourselves, but also for our careers and our world.  I have witnessed this transformation in hundreds of women.  It is possible.

Get a beautiful journal and a lovely pen.  Start writing all the things you’re good at and all of your accomplishments, however big or small.  Then read them over and start to imagine how they all tie together.

I am a “Renaissance Woman.”  So are all of you.  It’s time, ladies, to own it.

P.S.  Spring is a great time for transformation.  I’ve opened 10 free spots for an intro coaching session.  Click here to grab yours.




bio2Karen Fitzgerald is a personal development coach and entrepreneur whose mission is to help guide top performing creative women make big changes in their life.  She is also a sought after public speaker, writer and performer and has written for the Huffington Post and has spoken at The Hay House.


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One Response to “Renaissance Women”
  1. Elizabeth says:

    I LOVE this! So very true.

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